My heart is heavy for the family at my church's preschool who lost their youngest child of four Monday evening. Even though I don't know this family personally, I knew that the mother was very involved at the preschool and had heard of her on numerous occasions. I think what makes it so difficult for those of us with young children is that this hits very close to home. The fact is that it could have happened to any of us. The mom and kids were outside playing (like we do almost every day) and the youngest ran up beside the car of the dad as he was pulling into the garage. Unknowingly, the father's car hit the 18-month old child and the baby was pronounced dead at the hospital. I can't imagine what this family is going through right now. I just sit, wanting to pray for them, but not even knowing what words to use. The fact is, and sometimes we must use our brain in remembering the facts and promises of God instead of our hearts that are hurting and asking "Why?", that God knew this was going to happen. Before the child ever entered this world, God knew. All of his days were accounted for before he was so carefully knit in his mother's womb. I have faith that God will give this family the strength and grace they need to walk this journey. I pray that he will give them the peace that passeths all understanding as they bring their requests to Him. Lord, please have mercy on this family and many others who are hurting due to the death of a child. Although they will be forever changed, only you can bring healing, with time, to these families. My we always remember the words that we sing, "Blessed Be Your Name."

Blessed Be Your Name
In the land that is plentiful
Where Your streams of abundance flow
Blessed be Your name

Blessed Be Your name
When I'm found in the desert place
Though I walk through the wilderness
Blessed Be Your name

Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say
Blessed be the name of the Lord

He gives and takes away
My heart will choose to say
Lord, Blessed be Your Name

I'm so mean

Well, a few weeks ago Morgan lost his glasses. He has two pair because the first pair got scratched within the first two weeks of owning them... no surprise there. So, we went back and got the second pair for $100 (with scratch-free lenses) and ended up with two pair. So, like I said, a few weeks ago Morgan lost his glasses (the 2nd pair.) I kept telling him to look for them but he continued to procrastinate and never would. Finally, one day last week I helped him look for the glasses. We looked everywhere and still couldn't find them. Morgan said that he looked at school and couldn't find them, so I figured they were behind or under or stuck in something at home and that they would eventually turn up. In the meantime, I explained to Morgan that he owed me $100 for the glasses. I printed out a calendar and wrote chores for him to do every day. For each chore, I would pay him a certain amount of money and after he saved $100 he had to repay me. Here comes the good part... when we were at church Sunday morning, Chris found Morgan's glasses in the room where he does puppets on Wednesdsay night. However, I didn't tell Morgan that we found them. I brought them home and hid them in a very safe spot. I decided that he still needed to earn the $100 to understand the value of what was given to him. So, it'll probably take him the rest of the summer to earn the money since I only pay him about $1-$3 per job... I know... child labor. :-) When he finally saves the $100 I'm going to give him back the glasses, but I have't decided if I'll let him keep the money!

Weeeellllll...

I think we may need to go back to "How to Put on Your Clothes 101".

Her poor husband...

The past few weeks have been usually busy. I have finally gotten my house back in order from the last week and a half. We decided that we would use some of our tax-return money to have the interior of our house painted. We've had the same builder-grade, boring-khaki color on it since we moved in 2 1/2 years ago and it was starting to depress me. So, we agreed to get the kitchen, two-story foyer and family room and the upstairs hallway painted last weekend. It looks so much better and is a very calming khaki-greenish color. I love it!

Also, last weekend, my husband was gracious enough to let me spend Friday night and Saturday at my parent's lake house with a few of my close friends. We had a great time just relaxing, talking and soaking up the sun. We laid out for about 5 hours on Saturday with the exception of lunch. It was like we were back in high school again. It was a very refreshing weekend and a much-needed time to get away with girlfriends. So, this week I've been trying to get my laundry done, clean the house, run errands, fill the cupboards and get the decorations put back on the walls.

Thank you, Lord, for my beautiful family and wonderful friends. Thank you for a healthy body, a nice home and a family that loves me. Help me to be kind and calm and to have a teaching heart towards my children. Give me wisdom in knowing how to discipline them and wisdom in setting my priorities. Help me to know how to show my family that I love them in ways that they will recognize. Thank you for your word and for your everlasting love, mercy and grace. I am so undeserving of you and your faithfulness. Help me to be faithful to you and, through faith, give me the power I need to follow you and to act according to your will. Amen.

As you may know, Chris and I are attending Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University class at church. It only has a few more weeks left, but Chris and I have really enjoyed this class. We have not only learned about budgeting and spending wisely, but also about investments, retirement, saving for college, marketing and other aspects of financial "stuff." I wanted to tell you about a town hall meeting that Dave Ramsey is doing next week called "Town Hall for Hope." He will be in Oklahoma City, but the meeting will be shown LIVE throughout the United States via host churches and the internet. Right now, there are more than 5,000 churches across America hosting this event. The meeting will be held Thursday, April 23rd, at 8 PM and is free to everyone and free to any church that wants to host it. He will be talking about today's financial times and what we should be doing with our money during this time. Of course, if you can't find a way to attend a church event, you can always watch it on your computer. I am SO excited about this and can't wait to go!!! Just wanted to spread the word...

This past week was Spring Break for the kids and I. It turned out to be a great week although I didn't get to do some of the things that I wanted. I wanted to be able to take Morgan out one evening, but ended up doing other things and then he went to his dad's the last half of the week, so I'll definitely be sure to do that within the next week or two. We pretty much just stayed around the house, played and enjoyed time with family. Chris ad I did get one night and day to ourselves which is always really nice! We went out to eat and rented a movie and then the next day I spent cleaning the whole house while Chris was working. I know that may not sound exciting, but the days of my whole house being clean at one time are few and far between!

We enjoyed a great weekend with Chris' brother and his family who came down from Charleston. We went out to our favorite Japanese restaurant, Kani House, and the girls went shopping to help me find fabric to make curtains with and the guys played golf.

Easter was fabulous, but busy. We enjoyed our Easter morning at church and then came home to eat lunch and have an egg hunt for the kids. After everyone left, we cleaned up, watched the end of the Masters, fed the kids and then put them to bed early.

Here are a few pictures of our family on Easter...

Chris and I

Gavin hunts for eggs, but he didn't really get into it. He was fine with only 5 or 6.

My sweet girl.

My mom helps Ivey open her Easter eggs filled with goodies.

Morgan and Arden open their eggs, too, and have a great time catching up.

It's been another busy, but relatively uneventful week - which is good. Monday was spent doing laundry, going to the gym and taking my Grandaddy to the doctor. Tuesday, while the kids were in preschool, I paid the bills, went to the grocery store to fill our nearly bare cupboards and met a friend for lunch. Then, my in-laws came over for dinner and my mother-in-law and I took Ivey to the mall to buy shoes except there was NOT ONE spring shoe in extra wide. So, I ended up having to come home and order them online, but atleast shipping was free. Today, I did a power clean-up in the kitchen before heading to get my hair trimmed and then went out to lunch with Chris and "the guys" before picking up the kids. Chris just left to take Morgan to the dentist, Ivey has to be at dance inn 30 minutes and then we're off to dinner at church... this is the life I lead. Stay-at-home moms know what I'm talking about... you're running around like crazy but feel like you never got anything done or, even worse, can't even remember what you did! It's great though and I wouldn't trade it for anything!



So, anyway, the other day while I was fixing lunch, Ivey started singing this "Flower" song that she says she learned at Cubbies. I thought it was veryy cute and God definitely spoke to me through it. I think it's quite amazing how God works through children even with the simplest of songs. I hope she never forgets it. Here it is...

I can't believe it's been so long since my last post... time flies when you're having fun! I don't have any news, but I just thought I'd share what's been happening in our lives for those of my friends and family that I don't see very often.

We've pretty much just been doing the same 'ol thing. Monday is "Laundry Day", Tuesday - Thursday are preschool days when I cram in as many errands as I possibly can, Wednesday night is church and, well, the weekends just end faster than I can blink. Since all of the rain here this week, the past few days have been a little exhausting with the kids cooped up in the house. Today, I met a friend at Monkey Joe's to let the kids bounce around for a couple of hours. Then, it was on to lunch time, getting Ivey's hair cut in the afternoon (shorter and very cute!) and then taking Morgan to church to begin Disciple Now weekend, errand at Target, etc.... A very busy day! But, I love busy days and, surprisingly, the little ones and I had a good time at Target. They are finally getting to the age where doing errands with them isn't so bad. So, we've got a fun weekend ahead of us and are hoping that the rain and tornados predicted for tomorrow don't sweep us away. Monday should be sunny and 73... we'll be at the park for sure!!!

Meet me on the hill

Hebrews 12:1-2
"Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the JOY that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God."
God can use anything, anywhere, any time to teach us more about him. Today, this morning actually, he used running to draw my heart to Him. I love to run outside when the weather is nice. For one, I don't have to waste a total of 40 minutes driving to and from the gym. Secondly, I'm exercising while listening to my favorite praise and worship songs blaring through the headphones of my iPod. Thirdly, I seem to really be able to focus on God when I'm running and am in awe of his beautiful creation around me. So, any way, I had been running about ten minutes or so before I started up a hill in our neighborhood, one that I had run up lots of times before. But today I found something spiritual in running up that hill. First, I thought "This is where I AM right now." I've allowed myself to run downhill, it's so easy to do... gradually, so as to not even really notice that I'm going down until I'm at the bottom, in a spiritual valley. Of course, I can't stay there. I must run back home. So, I start up the hill, slow and steady. Is it hard? yes. Is it fun? not really. Do I stop? no way. But, I have to continue running. I set my eyes at the top of the hill, put one foot in front of the other and focus on my prize. God met me on that hill today. He reminded me that he is my prize. He is the reason I keep running on, putting one foot in front of the other, perservering through the struggles of life. He said, "Keep running. I know it's hard sometimes and I know you struggle. But, keep running." I even thought about when I don't really want to run any more, I'm tired and worn out and that little hill looks like a mountain. However, I have to make my body do what my mind knows that it can. And so it is with my spirit, too. When I'm weary and don't feel like trying to do the right thing or wanting to please God or even desiring to read my bible... I have to. I have to go through the motions until my heart believes what my mind knows is true. It's only a matter of time and, usually, not very long. So, I'm now on my journey back up the hill. And this hill, even though it seem rather unpleasant, will yield the fruit of knowing God more. I look forward to many more meetings with my true Love on that hill.

Harlem Globetrotters

Chris and I took Morgan and one of his friends to see the Harlem Globetrotters Saturday afternoon. I had never seen them before, so when QT sent out a deal with 4 tickets we thought it would be fun. It was really funny and the boys loved it! We had a great time just spending time with them and doing something special with Morgan.

The guys warm up before the "game" begins. Each of them did really cool tricks with the ball. It was quite amazing! Some of these guys were at least 7 feet tall and they only had one that was close to 6 feet.

The crowd does the YMCA. (See Morgan in the red shirt.)

This is one of the tricks they did quite a bit. They ran in a really tight zig-zag while throwing the ball to each other playing keep away from the other "team."

Night with Mommy

Chris went out tonight with some guy friends, so I had the kids all to myself. By default, any time one of us leaves the house for the evening, the other one usually finds somewhere to take the kids. Honestly, I think it's survival mode. So, since Chris headed out tonight, I decided that I would take the kids to the park, run a few errands then head home for dinner, baths and bed time. I had it all planned out perfectly. And, actually, it went very well. First, we went to the park. Then to Home Depot and Target. Then we headed home for ramen noodles (what every good mom fixes her kids for dinner, right?). It's now 8:18, I just sat down and after I finish this, I'm going to find some dinner for myself. Maybe I'll get out the rest of those Girl Scout cookies. I think I hear them calling my name...

Here are some pictures of my evening with the little kids...

Gavin LOVED the rock wall. He thought he was so big.

Gavin is pretty tough until his feet leave the ground. He made me promise that I wouldn't push too high.

And, of course, Ivey never meets a stranger. (I hope this lady didn't mind me taking her picture)

I think my kids honestly think it's a sin to go to Home Depot without riding the lawn mowers, so we definitely had to stop and do that.

Pay the Bills

It's nearing the last day of the month, tomorrow is Pay Day, and we're excited to pay our bills!! For the last several months, I've often wished away the weeks until Pay Day so that I could make another payment on debt... getting us that much closer to being debt free! We've been working on paying off our debt for a while, but since starting Dave Ramsey's FPU class last month we feel like we have an even better handle on our money. We actually feel like we control our money instead of it controlling us. By our calculations, we should be debt free, except for our house, by the end of 2010 - I can't tell you how excited that makes us!! Chris and I have made a lot of mistakes and learned a lot of hard lessons, but now we have a plan to meet our goal and it's working!! We're glad that we've had this opportunity relatively early in our marriage and look forward to spending the rest of our marriage having financial peace. We really believe that, for some reason, God allowed us this opportunity and we're excited that we have embraced it and are working hard at being good stewards of the money he has given us. Yes, it's all His.

Not the phone call I want to get

So, I was sitting at my computer yesterday morning about 10:30 and my cell phone rings. I didn't recognize the number, but I answer it any way.

"Hello?"
"Yes, may I speak with Mrs. Smathers?"
"This is she"
"Mrs. Smathers, this Mrs. Kerwood, Morgan's teacher. (uh-oh!) Morgan has been having trouble with his behavior at school today. I have him right here. I'm going to let him tell you what's been going on." (I am fuming)
Morgan gets on the phone:
"Hello?" (In a very quiet voice)
"WHAT IS GOING ON!?"
"Um, I don't know" (yeah, right)
"Well, tell me what you did!"
"Um, I wasn't working during study hall. (Big surprise, you never work during study hall) And, I accidentally threw an eraser across the room because somebody told me to"
"No, you didn't ACCIDENTALLY do anything! And just because someone tells you to do something, does that mean it's okay?"
"No"
"What else have you been doing, or NOT doing?"
"Um, when we were at break, me and Andrew were kicking each other"
"You were WHAT? Is that what you're supposed to be doing at break?"
"No"
"Then what's your problem?"
"I don't know"
"You better work at 150% for the rest of the day. You keep your hands, feet and obects to yourself. You will be SEVERELY punished when you get home. I will talk to you about this this afternoon!"

Then the teacher gets back on the phone, so I put my nice voice back on.

"Mrs. Kerwood, I want Morgan to have silent lunch today and if he isn't working during study hall then give him worksheets to do and put him in the hallway."
"Yes, ma'am. We can do that. Thank you."
"Thank you"

OH, man! Was I mad! There were a few more sentences in there, but that was the jist of it. Morgan is a good kid, but, he's at the age where he DOESN'T THINK. I believe his brain temporarily turns off at some points during the day. I remember being in the 6th grade and some boy made me really mad, so yelled out some explicatives in front of the whole class. Those were the words I heard other kids using (my parents never talked that way), so I thought that would do the trick. It didn't. What was I thinking?? I wasn't. It happens. Needless to say he was punished when he got home with a laundry list of chores to do as well as no TV, no computer and no Wii for the rest of the week. He got mad for about 30 minutes and then he got over it and was as happy as he could be doing his chores. Of course!

Lots of paperwork

Chris and I decided to look at changing companies for our homeowner's and auto insurance. We've been with the same company forever and decided to see what else was out there. It's kind of like Dave Ramsey said before, "We do things because that's 'just what our parents did'." We don't even know why we do things the way we do. So we looked into another company with an insurance agent that attends our church and sure enough we'll be saving about $900 a year with the new company. So, this week I'm emailing, calling and filling out paperwork for the new insurance company. While we're at it, we decided to increase Chris' life insurance policy (God forbid anything should happen to my sweet hubby) "just in case". Since I could never support our family on a teacher's salary, we decided we would rather be safe than sorry. And, if we're starting Chris' life insurance policy term over again, we might as well redo mine. So, again, here comes more paperwork. Last week the nurse came out to do our medical examinations for the life insurance. She ended up only doing mine because the life insurance company had a question about Chris. The nurse drew blood from me and I thought Chris was going to faint just watching. He's been nervous ever since because he knows she has to come back out to do his next week. It's kind of funny to me - I like to tease him about it. Drawing blood doesn't bother me - HELLO! I'VE GIVEN BIRTH TO THREE KIDS! Anyway, this week is filled with paperwork, phone calls and more paperwork. Oh, the joy of being an adult!

I took Gavin for his 3-year check up today. He weighs 32 pounds and is 38 inches tall. Over the last year, he has gained 6 pounds and grown 4 inches! He didn't have to get any shots today and he was great during the exam - all business. His biggest concern was taking off his clothes because he doesn't usually like to be naked. I think it makes him feel vulnerable. Anyway, he did great and hopefully he'll be as healthy this year and he was last year. He didn't have to go to the doctor a single time except for a flu shot.

During the exam the doctor asked me if I had any specific questions or concerns. In fact, I did. Gavin used to sleep until at least 8 AM, but now he's waking at least once, usually twice, during the night and then up for good by 6:30 AM. This doesn't really work for me, since he comes to MY side of the bed, so we obviously need to find another solution. Two nights ago I decided it was time to play hard ball. Chris was out of town, so I was determined to nip this in the bud. From now on, we're going to treat Gavin, or Ivey, just like we did when they were infants. We're going to make a clear distinction between day time and night time, i.e. SLEEP time!! At night, there's no talking, no hugging, no kissing, no nothing! If Gavin gets up during the night, I pick him up without saying a word, put him back in his bed, cover him up and walk out of the room. Of course, this results in crying. So, I walk back in the room and quietly say, "Be quiet. No crying." and walk back out of the room. The first night this happened, he wasn't really sure what to do. It was hard for me because he holds his arms up for a hug and says, "Mommy, I want you." Well, no Mr. Nice Guy anymore (or Ms. Nice Lady) as the case may be. I said, "No hugs at night-night time" and walked out. The first night he woke up twice - 12:15 and 5:30 AM. The second night he woke up about 1 AM. Whew! It's working! He still woke up at 6:30, but we also made the rule that Ivey nor Gavin can get out of their beds until Mommy or Daddy come to get them. So, when he woke up at 6:30, I took him back to bed and said that I would be back to get him a little while. He stayed in his room until 7:15 when I heard him singing and didn't want him to wake up Ivey. So, anyway, the last few nights have been a little hard, but I know that it'll work if we stick to it. Our babies didn't sleep through the night at 8 weeks old for nothin'! The doctor thought that I was doing the right thing and said that he is probably just needing less sleep since he's getting older. I could feel my insides turn over. Instead of taking a nap every day, he may only need one every other day or so. Oh, my! Are you serious?? I'm glad it'll be getting warmer soon. The park is about to be our best friend!

OK - So my friend, Ginger, told me about a great website called southernsavers.com. It's kind of like a blog that tells everyone about great deals in their area. So, the first one for today was for restaurant.com. So, I got to the website. You can type in your zip code and it will give you lots of restuarants in your area that are wanting people to try their restuarant. You scroll down the list of restaurants and you can choose to buy either a $10 off coupon or a $25 off coupon to any of the listed restaurants. Here's the deal... you normally by the coupon for $3 or $10 respectively. However, there is a discount code this week... PREZ... that gives you 70% off. So, you can buy a $10 off coupon to the restaurant of your choice for only $.90!!! Or a $25 off coupon for $3!! I bought 4 coupons for when Chris and I want to go out to a nice dinner. What a bargain!! AND, you can use Paypal so that it comes straight out of your check book and you don't have to put in on your credit card. Dave Ramsey would LOVE me!

Chris decided to get this video of Gavin singing "Mighty To Save." It's one of my favorite songs and was my ring tone on my old phone. (I want to get it again, but Chris has to order it first.) Anyway, Gavin has memorized the chorus because of listening to it on my phone and also because I turn the radio up whenever the song comes on in the car. Sometimes, he just randomly starts singing it when we're doing different things. I love the song because it encompasses the sovereignty of God which is quite an amazing and mind-blowing thing. It also reminds me to continue praying for those in my family and circle of friends that aren't Christians. He IS mighty to save! The author of salvation! Shine your light and let the whole world see, we're singing for the glory of the risen King!

For Christmas, one of Morgan's gifts was tickets to see STOMP at the Fox Theatre. Chris and I went to see it about a year and a half ago, I LOVED the show... Chris didn't. He's never been into music and he is rhythmically challenged, so he didn't appreciate it the way I, the former drummer, did. So, we decided that my mom and I would take Morgan to see the show in late January. We went to the afternoon show, had really great seats (7 rows from the stage) and it was a BLAST! Morgan loved it and my mom and I did too. The show was even better than last time - it's absolutely amazing to see what those people can do! After the show we went to The Melting Pot to enjoy fondue and it was absolutely delicious. That is one of Morgan's favorite places to go, other than Kani House, so we treated him to a nice dinner with Mom and Grandma. We had a great time and it was so nice to just get to spend time with Morgan.

Birthday party!! Tonight we held a celebration for Gavin's birthday. I told Gavin that yesterday was his real birthday, but since he was sick yesterday we were going to pretend that today was his birthday. Well, that didn't go over very well. He cried saying, "But...it's not real." But, once everybody started arriving and he got to play with his cousin Andrew, everything was great.
We also celebrated Ginger's birthday (Feb. 1) and Grandma Marjane's birthday (Feb. 7th) as well. Since Chris and I have such a large family, we usually have at least one birthday, usually two or three, each month. I think we may possibly get the month of March off which our check book will appreciate! Here are some pictures of the birthday party tonight. We had a great time!

Since it was so nice outside today, we had time to play ball before the party started. It was so nice to get some fresh air.

Happy Birthday, Gavin!! Today is Gavin's 3rd birthday. He was actually born about 9:45 PM, so I guess he won't technically be three until tonight. Chris and I will always remember that we were watching 24 in the hospital room when Gavin was born. I had an epidural, so I wasn't feeling much except some pressure. The nurse came to check me and Gavin's head was coming out, so she had to push it back in while the doctor got ready real quick. I'll never forget that feeling - very weird - and we were a little disappointed that we couldn't finish that episode of 24! Chris and I joked later that we should have named him Jack. Anyway, it's really neat to watch Gavin growing so fast. His absolutely loves Spider-Man. He is emotionally attached to our dog, Charlie. He's always laying on her and hugging her. She just looks at me with her big brown eyes and waits for him to eventually climb off. He's always saying funny, random things - always making us laugh. He also has a bit of stubbornness and isn't always the most obedient child. But, the wooden spoon scares him to death , so the threat of that works most of the time. I love the way he runs, it just makes me laugh. He loves playing with Ivey and his favorite game is to play "football". That basically means that he wants you to tackle him when he gets the ball. There isn't really any throwing involved. I'm curious to see how much he's grown over the past few months, so hopefully I can remember to make his appointment for a well-check... I guess that's what happens when you're the 3rd child. :-)

Anyway, he woke up this morning sick to his stomach. I hope he doesn't have a bug, but he threw up twice - at 5 AM and then again at 6:15 AM. I had the feeling that something like that would happen! He acts okay for a while, but then acts like his tummy is hurting again. I hope he got it all out of his system, but I guess we'll see. We're supposed to have a family party for him tonight, so I hope he feels better soon.